Just take a moment....

I almost get tired sometimes when I just listen to people telling me about their day. It is simply exhausting. I feel like I need a coffee or Red Bull when they are done.

Just to sit there with one question in my mind: "When do you ever stop to look at your life, at what is important to and live for that?!"

When do you stop to look at your life? At what you truly want.....those things that are important to you (wife, husband, marriage, kids, friends, family) and to look at yourself! To look at yourself and to see what impact you are having on those important things. What quality time you are spending with them. What experience you are creating for them!!

Or are you just so caught up in all the excess that you need to feel important.....to look good....to hide from your guilt....to hide from inabilities and fears?

No one is perfect and your partner or spouse did not choose you because they think you are perfect. No one is the best husband or the best wife or the best parent!! We need each other...you need each other!

And you need each other to be open, upright and honest so that you can move forward with respect and love, not giving resentment and shame and guilt a chance to step in!

So where in your life do you need to share something in order to get clean.....to give life a chance? But before you share.....just sit down and decide how important it is to you. How important is your wife to you? How important is it for you wanting to be married to her? How much do you truly want this? And then ask her if she wants the same!!

Then you will realise one thing.....that both of you have the same goal and that has never changed! It is lies and deceit that walked through the door and made you see each other and experience each other differently. It is like you are wearing camouflage clothing and you can't see each other anymore....you can't see yourself anymore. It is time to get clean.

If both of you wish to share love....take the time to get clean and give each other the time and grace and forgiveness. We all make mistakes.....we all get disheartened, and we all deserve the opportunity to share our heart and be listened to.

Take the time.....cause tomorrow might not be there.

So if you are married or love someone.....life is so short and this is not a cliche, cause you do not know about tomorrow, only this moment now.....take the time to sit down and share your heart, admit your actions and do not point a finger at all. Jislaaik man, your heart is worth it!!!!

And if you need advice or support.....do not hesitate to contact me, please!!