The choice & the focus

 Our lives are created, determined and shaped by the choices that we make. Each and every singe choice that YOU make has a consequence. Whatever motivated your choice will not change the consequences.

Yes, we will put what motivated our choice on the table to make us look or feel better. Maybe to create some understanding with the party that got influenced by the choice. Hopefully it may lesson the consequences of your choice. Who knows, but there will be consequences and you need to take responsibility for them. If you don't it will just happen again.

Because our choices are highly motivated and driven by emotions attached to past experiences, it becomes very important to separate yourself from the past. Why? Because a past emotional experience shapes a new found truth within you. You will apply this truth to every similar situation even if it is not the truth in that specific situation. But you unconsciously go and look for things to support your truth.....and believe me you will and always do find things (mostly way out of context) to support YOUR truth.

So how do we prevent these past emotional truths that was formed from shaping our future?

I believe that we need to shift our focus. Start focusing on the present and the future. When we allow our focus to wonder in the past, those emotional truths will always be in control. It has been scientifically proven that in any situation we take in 6 units of emotion and just 1 unit of data. So the data, the reality, the real truth does not stand a chance if we allow our focus to be in the past.

So focus on the present and give the present a fair chance. It may just give you the greatest gift......helping you to let go of the past.